I got the dreaded call from daycare the other day. No- not the “your child has a fever so pick him up now and don’t come back tomorrow either” call. But the “your child bit someone” call. Yikes!
I’ve been on the other end many times, but I always thought the biter obviously wasn’t well disciplined or as well mannered like my Boog. But here I was in uncharted territory. What do I do? What do I say? Is my child going to be kicked out of daycare? And importantly. . . What happened to make my Boog do this? MY child doesn’t bite!
Of course, when I got to daycare later that day, the story didn’t get any better. Boog jumped (unprovoked) onto another child and bit him. So, as any good parent would do, I had a little heart to heart with my little guy. It went something like this:
Me: “Did you bite someone today?”
Me: “Do you know that’s not nice?”
Boog: no response as he’s distracted by a nearby toy car
Me: “Boog. Look at Mommy” (repeatedly)
Me: (after giving up on eye contact) “Biting hurts. It’s not nice.”
Boog: “Shoes. Shoes.” (his way of asking me to take off his shoes)
OK. So maybe 23 months is a little young for a true heart to heart, but how do you teach your child that it’s not nice to bite (or that he shouldn’t say “no” to everything, which he also does a lot these days. “Boog, time for a bath” “No”; “Boog, let’s eat dinner” “No”; “Boog, you have to share” “Noooo”; “Boog, put your shoes on” “No No No No”) This picture demonstrates how we always see Boog- in the blur of No…
Until I figure it out (or until Boog is old enough to really listen and understand), we’ll keep cheering on his happy, nice moments (there are still a lot of these!) and sternly telling him when he’s not being as nice as he should be.
Plan B is something my husband found as a raging debate on-line. . .if your child bites, bite him back so he knows how it feels. (just kidding. . . I’m still more likely to eat Boog up for his cuteness!) Actually, I did find some other helpful blogs out there on “cranky kids” to help me realize that I’m not alone in the situation or figuring out how to deal with it.