What? You don’t need my help?? By Laura Derrico

This guest post is by Laura Derrico, a member of our Channel Marketing Department and mom to an almost 4 year old boy, “the bubz.” Laura talks about a parent’s experience in dealing with a child’s independence.

When you first bring your child into this world, you want to shelter your baby and keep them away from harm, you want them to dream big, you want them to be happy, you hope they won’t have to experience being picked last in a ball game or left behind. You want to be there with them but let them go at the same time.

This morning I was at the park with “the bubz” and we were doing our normal thing; I sit and watch- he runs around, he coaxes me to climb up the playground fixtures where I clearly do not fit and we laugh. I climbed down to grab some water for us and I look up and he is climbing this spiral climb thing that, until now, he has been terrified to go near (frankly, so have I and I certainly have not encouraged him to climb it, either). He continues to climb, determined, excited. He reaches the top and I am in awe. When he realized that he had reached the top, he jumped up and down and smiled so large and screamed “yay, I am a big boy now, mommy”- let me just tell you, the amount of pride, happiness and sadness that filled my heart was overwhelming.

I now know that he is strong enough to climb small mountains, to see he now knows how to accomplish small feats- (so huge for him, I know)…but what got me the most is that he no longer needs my hand or that extra push to get him to the top- he can do it by himself. I have been teary-eyed all day since then.  Again, as a parent, you want your little ones to be able to accomplish wonderful things on their own, but when you see that you can sit the sidelines and they’re ok…there is that happiness, but a little bit of sadness too.

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5 Responses to “What? You don’t need my help?? By Laura Derrico”

  1. Kim @ What's That Smell? October 3, 2008 at 8:09 pm #

    It’s funny how we want them to gain their independence yet we desperately miss the days when they had complete dependence upon us.

    I so feel that!

  2. Aimee October 4, 2008 at 10:16 am #

    What a sweet post! I do hate the small milestones that my children pass. Their are days that I want them to grow up so fast, and then most days, I still want them to be my baby!

  3. Ashley October 4, 2008 at 12:31 pm #

    The bitter-sweet pangs of motherhood. I’ve already experienced some with my 14 month old. But it so good to know that at the end of the day you’re still their mother, no matter how much they’ve grown independent from you!

  4. Jenny October 4, 2008 at 2:19 pm #

    Aww! I know how you feel. My baby boy is only 7 months old and I already feel like he doesn’t need me as much. It makes me sad.

  5. hyperactive lu October 4, 2008 at 6:59 pm #

    Yes…so true. I want to rush things and then realize that one day I’ll wish I was back at this point!