Comments on: Celebrating Pregnancy after a Loss http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/ Graco corporate blog Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:18:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bo http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-4289 Bo Wed, 12 Aug 2009 04:12:46 +0000 http://blog.gracobaby.com/?p=1050#comment-4289 I'm so glad I found these posts, they are truly inspirational and making me feel like I'm not alone. A few months ago my husband and I started trying to get pregnant and surprisingly it happened within the very first month. We were thrilled and I thought to myself that of course we got pregnant so fast since we both are very healthy, athletic and still young. At the 5th week I went to the doctor who confirmed my pregnancy, although there was no heart beat yet. I was scheduled to come back in 2 weeks to see the heart beat of the baby. Within those two weeks I didn't have any signs of pregnancy, therefore I started to worry but then thought some women never have any signs of pregnancy. When I started joking to the doctor that I may not be pregnant, thinking that woudln't be possible, he confirmed the worst, I had miscarried. I coudln't understand how this happened. I started going through all the cases of miscarriages I knew about and in each of them someone either smoked cigarettes or was overweight, then I realized miscarriage can happen to any of us and as Melissa stated in her first post each baby is a true miracle and we should cherish each moment we have with them. I am now 7-week pregnant and have a first doctor appointment this Thursday. I'm extremely nervous thinking of the worst again. I'm praying to see a little bean jumping up and down on the US picture with the 155/min heart beat. Now I have a frequent nausea, therefore I keep convincing myself that maybe this time everything is fine. I just can't stop thinking about ....'what if' ....I'm scared, can't stop tears from falling when I think the doctor may say the same words I already heard once...."the baby isn't growing or moving"...hope this time things will be fine.... I’m so glad I found these posts, they are truly inspirational and making me feel like I’m not alone. A few months ago my husband and I started trying to get pregnant and surprisingly it happened within the very first month. We were thrilled and I thought to myself that of course we got pregnant so fast since we both are very healthy, athletic and still young. At the 5th week I went to the doctor who confirmed my pregnancy, although there was no heart beat yet. I was scheduled to come back in 2 weeks to see the heart beat of the baby. Within those two weeks I didn’t have any signs of pregnancy, therefore I started to worry but then thought some women never have any signs of pregnancy. When I started joking to the doctor that I may not be pregnant, thinking that woudln’t be possible, he confirmed the worst, I had miscarried. I coudln’t understand how this happened. I started going through all the cases of miscarriages I knew about and in each of them someone either smoked cigarettes or was overweight, then I realized miscarriage can happen to any of us and as Melissa stated in her first post each baby is a true miracle and we should cherish each moment we have with them. I am now 7-week pregnant and have a first doctor appointment this Thursday. I’m extremely nervous thinking of the worst again. I’m praying to see a little bean jumping up and down on the US picture with the 155/min heart beat. Now I have a frequent nausea, therefore I keep convincing myself that maybe this time everything is fine. I just can’t stop thinking about ….’what if’ ….I’m scared, can’t stop tears from falling when I think the doctor may say the same words I already heard once….”the baby isn’t growing or moving”…hope this time things will be fine….

]]> By: Steph http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-3706 Steph Mon, 11 May 2009 14:21:37 +0000 http://blog.gracobaby.com/?p=1050#comment-3706 Thanks for reassuring me that what I'm feeling is not unusual. I have a wonderful 4 1/2 year old daughter, and am currently 17 weeks pregnant. I had a miscarriage last year, and have found myself distancing myself from this pregnancy, and expecting at every step that something would go wrong. At the first ultrasound, when the baby didn't move right away I expected the worst...same when they couldn't find the heartbeat immediately at the next appointment. All has gone well and the baby is by all accounts healthy, yet I'm finding myself struggling with this and doubting again now as I wait to feel the baby move. (the time I've spent on google checking out symptoms and when to expect them!) Thank you for sharing your story - it is helping others. Thanks for reassuring me that what I’m feeling is not unusual. I have a wonderful 4 1/2 year old daughter, and am currently 17 weeks pregnant. I had a miscarriage last year, and have found myself distancing myself from this pregnancy, and expecting at every step that something would go wrong. At the first ultrasound, when the baby didn’t move right away I expected the worst…same when they couldn’t find the heartbeat immediately at the next appointment. All has gone well and the baby is by all accounts healthy, yet I’m finding myself struggling with this and doubting again now as I wait to feel the baby move. (the time I’ve spent on google checking out symptoms and when to expect them!) Thank you for sharing your story – it is helping others.

]]> By: Trish http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-3155 Trish Wed, 25 Feb 2009 19:19:15 +0000 http://blog.gracobaby.com/?p=1050#comment-3155 Hey. This post and the comments have been really helpful. I have a wonderful 3 year-old daughter with whom I had no trouble conceiving and had an amazing pregnancy resulting in a healthy baby. I took it all for granted. Then we had trouble conceiving again, and I had 2 miscarriages, both at 6 1/2 weeks. I am now 5 1/2 weeks pregnant and feeling the anxiety constantly. I don't even want to tell my parents about it until I am well clear of the 7 week mark (maybe if I get a great report at a 9 week visit at the OBGYN which is scheduled), and will certainly not tell the world until 12 weeks if I make it. My husband tries, but he totally doesn't get it, because it's not his body having all these hormones again and it's not him who would have to go through all of the physical part of another miscarriage. I just feel very detached from this possible being and must remain that way to protect myself so I'm not crying with anxiety all the time. I'm sorry to hear you all had difficulties, but good to know I'm not the only one, and glad to hear the good stuff too. Hey. This post and the comments have been really helpful. I have a wonderful 3 year-old daughter with whom I had no trouble conceiving and had an amazing pregnancy resulting in a healthy baby. I took it all for granted. Then we had trouble conceiving again, and I had 2 miscarriages, both at 6 1/2 weeks. I am now 5 1/2 weeks pregnant and feeling the anxiety constantly. I don’t even want to tell my parents about it until I am well clear of the 7 week mark (maybe if I get a great report at a 9 week visit at the OBGYN which is scheduled), and will certainly not tell the world until 12 weeks if I make it. My husband tries, but he totally doesn’t get it, because it’s not his body having all these hormones again and it’s not him who would have to go through all of the physical part of another miscarriage. I just feel very detached from this possible being and must remain that way to protect myself so I’m not crying with anxiety all the time.

I’m sorry to hear you all had difficulties, but good to know I’m not the only one, and glad to hear the good stuff too.

]]> By: Melissa Parlaman (Graco contributor) http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-2858 Melissa Parlaman (Graco contributor) Mon, 26 Jan 2009 13:33:49 +0000 http://blog.gracobaby.com/?p=1050#comment-2858 Thanks to everyone for leaving a comment & for sharing your stories. It is great to have so much support! Thanks to everyone for leaving a comment & for sharing your stories. It is great to have so much support!

]]> By: Jendi http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-2838 Jendi Sat, 24 Jan 2009 18:55:31 +0000 http://blog.gracobaby.com/?p=1050#comment-2838 So true! I remember those days wrought with anxiety. I had 2 miscarriages before my son was born. Why don't we talk about them more? Why don't we say "I've had 5 pregnancies but the first 2 babies are in Heaven?" I tell others that it's good to grieve. Your baby has died and their is a loss that needs recognized. Don't just push it away or shrug it off. So true!
I remember those days wrought with anxiety.
I had 2 miscarriages before my son was born.
Why don’t we talk about them more? Why don’t we say “I’ve had 5 pregnancies but the first 2 babies are in Heaven?”
I tell others that it’s good to grieve. Your baby has died and their is a loss that needs recognized. Don’t just push it away or shrug it off.

]]> By: Steph @ Problem Solvin Mom http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-2800 Steph @ Problem Solvin Mom Tue, 20 Jan 2009 18:26:30 +0000 http://blog.gracobaby.com/?p=1050#comment-2800 Congratulations!! While I haven't miscarried, so many of my friends have that with my first pregnancy I kept waiting for that other shoe to drop. It was well into my second trimester that I finally relaxed. What a miracle it truly is, and that's a reminder we sometimes need with those early symptoms! :) Congratulations!! While I haven’t miscarried, so many of my friends have that with my first pregnancy I kept waiting for that other shoe to drop. It was well into my second trimester that I finally relaxed.

What a miracle it truly is, and that’s a reminder we sometimes need with those early symptoms! :)

]]> By: Kim http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-2799 Kim Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:56:34 +0000 http://blog.gracobaby.com/?p=1050#comment-2799 Melissa, you are an inspiration to many by just sharing this extremely personal story. It's moments like these that make you stop and enjoy every minute...as they are too precious. And I couldn't agree more that the ability to carry a child is a wonderful gift. Thanks for putting your heart out there. Melissa, you are an inspiration to many by just sharing this extremely personal story. It’s moments like these that make you stop and enjoy every minute…as they are too precious. And I couldn’t agree more that the ability to carry a child is a wonderful gift.
Thanks for putting your heart out there.

]]> By: casual friday everyday http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-2791 casual friday everyday Sat, 17 Jan 2009 03:33:09 +0000 http://blog.gracobaby.com/?p=1050#comment-2791 I was also nervous with this third baby. I was nervous about him up until he was in my arms. It was a rough pregnancy this time around. I wish you a beautifully normal, healthy pregnancy :) Nell I was also nervous with this third baby. I was nervous about him up until he was in my arms. It was a rough pregnancy this time around. I wish you a beautifully normal, healthy pregnancy :)

Nell

]]> By: T with Honey http://blog.gracobaby.com/2009/01/15/celebrating-pregnancy-after-a-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-2789 T with Honey Fri, 16 Jan 2009 21:00:51 +0000 http://blog.gracobaby.com/?p=1050#comment-2789 You are far from the only mom who is a bit afraid of fully embracing and cherishing the baby growing in her belly. I wrote on my blog that even with my first child I couched a small part of myself in case of the worst until after the doctor declared her healthy as she lay in my arms. At 13 weeks I'm finally sharing the news with the world - or at least the last people I'm cluing in... my boss and coworkers. After my miscarriage the fear got worse. We waited till later to tell everyone in my family except my mom because we didn't want to break their hearts if it happened again. But it also helped me get through those first trimester symptoms with a little more grace - I knew the nausea and exhaustion are signs of a healthy pregnancy. Can't wait to read more and compare our pregnancies! You are far from the only mom who is a bit afraid of fully embracing and cherishing the baby growing in her belly. I wrote on my blog that even with my first child I couched a small part of myself in case of the worst until after the doctor declared her healthy as she lay in my arms. At 13 weeks I’m finally sharing the news with the world – or at least the last people I’m cluing in… my boss and coworkers.

After my miscarriage the fear got worse. We waited till later to tell everyone in my family except my mom because we didn’t want to break their hearts if it happened again. But it also helped me get through those first trimester symptoms with a little more grace – I knew the nausea and exhaustion are signs of a healthy pregnancy.

Can’t wait to read more and compare our pregnancies!

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