No- I’m not in the middle of mulling this question over (I’m NOT pregnant Mom) but after reading Melissa’s post and waiting on edge to find out if PP was having a little brother or sister, I wanted to share my perspective on deciding about whether or not to find out the sex of a baby-to-be.
The first time around, when I was pregnant with my son, we decided to go for the surprise. We didn’t care what we were having either way, though I was SURE it was a boy (and I was pretty excited about that honestly). Sure enough, mommy’s intuition was right on and out popped an averaged sized little baby boy with oversized lips (and that’s when the nickname Jagger was born too). Chris ran out to the waiting room with his “New Dad” hat on and held up the “It’s a Boy!” blue ribbon for the exhausted grandparents in the waiting room. News spread like a meme on Facebook and well wishers were calling to congratulate me on the birth of my new son. Three days later, dressed in yellow, we brought Jagger home to his green and white lamby baby room.
The second time around we decided to find out. See, this time we were admittedly hoping for a little girl and for me, the worst thing in the world would have been to have any sense of “disappointment” there in the birthing room. I wanted only happiness and joy to fill that room- just like it did for our first. That was the deciding factor for me and for some reason 20 weeks seemed longer than 9 months to wait!
We went in for our 20-week ultrasound and when asked, “Do you want to know what it is?” we excitedly said “Yes!” That’s when we heard, “It’s a girl.” I could not believe it. A rush came over me like nothing I experienced with Jagger. Don’t get me wrong- I was over the moon about having a little boy- really I was- it’s just what I wanted, but I was just too darn exhausted and hungry to really experience the moment when they said “It’s a Boy!” (in fact, I remember questioning my husband- “Are you sure?”). So this was awesome. I could soak in all the girlish news and what came next I hadn’t gotten to experience before either – I got to be the one to tell everyone the good news. My mom had come with us but was waiting in the hallway so I got to drag her in and tell her that after 3 grandsons she was finally going to be able to buy PINK! She was so excited. Then I got to make the phone calls, return to work and tell my friends and watch their reactions. The first time around everyone knew before I had the chance to spread the news. So this was a very cool experience.
So my two experiences were very different and I’m sooo glad I chose to do it the way we did it. I was happy to have gone the traditional (though clearly less-popular) route the first time but then the experience I had after finding out for our 2nd child was fantastic. I totally understood why 75% of you do choose to know the sex of your baby-to-be. Whatever route you choose, it’s an amazing experience and really nothing quite prepares you for the moment when you find out if you have a son or a daughter.