“I did it.”
“What?” I asked my husband who called me while I was out.
“I spanked him.”
“Oh.” I wasn’t sure how to respond.
See, I’m not morally opposed to spanking and Boog has certainly almost pushed me to the spanking point more than once so I understood how DH could go there. My issue with spanking (assuming it’s a once-in-awhile, not-too-hard spanking that’s more of a single “spank” vs. the stereotypical “bend over the knee while I give you a good spanking” spank) is more of a philosophical one. . . if we tell Boog he shouldn’t hit, how can we rationalize spanking him?
“Did it work?” I finally asked.
Hmmm. Maybe spanking wasn’t such a bad option after all. I decided to ask around about this and get some more opinions and real life experiences.
After talking (and debating) a bit, I definitely heard some strong opinions on the subject. But I can’t say the responses were consistent. Some were vehemently opposed to the idea and equated it to abuse. “There are other ways to get kids to do what you want” was something I heard (though I’d like to have them come over when Boog decides to not listen. Fun times.)
Others favored it. “My parents did it. It worked and I turned out fine.” “People are too soft on kids today. They need to understand and respect discipline.” “I’ll spank, but only for something serious – like when he doesn’t listen to me and runs out into the street.”
The net of it for me is that there’s no concrete answer. I don’t personally equate a single spank to abuse (heck. I’ve heard some parents deliver more abuse verbally than what a spank would deliver in my opinion), but yet I don’t want to send the wrong message to Boog. I would prefer to “talk it out” but if talking doesn’t work and if it’s serious enough, I’m not going to rule out the spanking arrow in my quiver of parenting options. It’s just one that I truly hope I never have to use.