It didn’t occur to me that I would have to pick a new name for myself, but one of the first questions everyone asks me when they learn of my impending granddaughter’s birth is “Do you know what you want to be called?”
My first reaction is to let her name me. Shouldn’t that be one of the benefits of being a first-born? That’s what I got to do – I named my Grandmother “Mamie” because I was first-born and that was my early attempt at saying “Grandmom”, so it stuck. Do I really have to pick my own name and then tell everyone that’s what I want to be called? It feels strange to me. Is this how it is usually done?
If I go with the first approach, I won’t have a name until she begins to talk. When R&B let me hold her, I don’t want them to say “Here, BGT – go to that lady who shall remain nameless until you come up with something cute and original”. I think I would like to be called something unique like my Mamie was (but not off the wall). I can’t be called “Mamie” – she was one of a kind. My other grandmother was called “Nana”, which has a nice ring to it. My mom is “Mom-Mom”. Should I be “Mom-Mom-Mom”? – no that’s just silly. “Grandma” is so, I don’t know…. regular. “Grammy” feels old, but it is kind of cute. “Me-Mom”? — probably not, because it naturally evokes “Pee-Pop” for Hubby. He’s already calling him self P-Daddy, so that will probably stick. Why is he having fun with this, but I seem to be mired in angst?
One of my brothers-in law is called Papa` (accent on the last syllable) by his grandchildren and I just love that. Mama’, however, reminds me of the Addams Family, so that’s out. I’ve got a few months to figure this out, but I’d love to hear some stories of how you and yours have named the grandparents in your world and get some suggestions.