I feel like I’ve been hearing a lot about this topic lately from so many different perspectives.
For example, one of my girlfriends is just starting to think about having kids soon. While her husband is ready to start trying, she’s not quite sure she’s ready for that step just yet. When I asked her why, she explained that one of the biggest reasons she’s unsure is because she would be one of only a few women in her group of friends to have children. She’s worried it would change these relationships and possibly make them grow apart. I said I didn’t think that was true, but is it?
Another recent story was from a friend of mine with a daughter who is absolutely inseparable from her best friend. They want to do everything together, so she sees this little girl’s parents practically every day (sometimes more). She says they are extremely nice, but does that mean they need to be HER best friends too?
Then, even in the book I’m reading there’s a story – the main character said that she never had any girlfriends until she finally did have a child, and it helped her find her two most wonderful friends in the world. They bonded over the fact that they had children who were similar ages. This allowed them to find a common ground when they might not have ordinarily become friends, and she was so greatful for that.
Have your kids (or has your pregnancy) changed your relationships with your friends?