I never realized how important buying my first home would be. Nor did I realize the effect it would have on my marriage. After just about seven short weeks of newlywedded bliss, my husband and I decided we were ready to buy our first house.
And now, we are about to wring each other’s necks.
We’ve both been apartment-dwellers for the past four years here in Atlanta (I bounced around 5 apartments in those 4 years), and this is the first time we’ll really be able to call a place HOME. Our home. I have to say, it’s been a little scary!
Are we making the right decisions? Asking the right questions? Getting a good enough deal? From inspections to appraisals to stipulations to FHA to “declining markets” – it’s hard to tell what’s what let alone what’s right. And it’s been even harder on the two of us. Never in our relationship have we butted heads like this.
When I really think about it, I know it’s because buying a home is so much more than making a purchase. It’s starting your life. A home makes you imagine so much more than paint and floors and walls, but how you might eventually build a family, and the kind of person you want to become.
Maybe I’m overthinking it, but to me, a new house means new possibilities. It means growing up and being responsible. It’s more than just a place we’ll stay for a little while – it’s OUR first major purchase together as a married couple.
Well, it’s been a bit of a journey, but we’re happy to say that we’ve finally found a place we love, and hopefully we’ll be moving in within a month or so. AND we’re beyond the “killing each other” phase to actually getting excited! (Don’t worry, just wait until we have to paint the walls…) Wish us luck!
What was your experience like when you bought your first home? And how did you cope!?
*This photo was taken by ChrisKWM