Thanks to our friend Tiffany from Lattes and Life for this wonderful guest post!
As much as I’d been looking forward to my day away, I couldn’t shake the nagging feeling that my son needed me. I’m a stay-at-home mom so it’s not like he doesn’t see me enough. I usually don’t have a problem going out on my own, so this wasn’t a case of mommy guilt either. The feeling wouldn’t go away though, so I gave in to it and had my first Mommy date with my little man.
For two and a half years it was just the two of us during the day. We had our cozy little routine and ways of doing things that included lots of snuggles throughout the day. When his baby sister was born things really changed. Naturally I had to tend to the baby, and since he wasn’t so thrilled about being a big brother, he didn’t come around me when I had her. Eventually we found a new normal and have spent the last year carving out new routines and ways of doing things, but it’s not the same.
For our Mommy date we headed into the city and went to that fun mall store where you can make your own stuffed animal. It was our first trip there, and he had to hug every stuffed animal before making his decision. I wanted to hurry him along, but I reminded myself that this was his day. We weren’t in a hurry, and there was nobody else I needed to give my attention to right then. So we dawdled.
We roamed around the mall, unencumbered by a stroller or diaper bag. We ate lunch, sharing an order of fries and talking about the people we saw. The rest of our day was nothing fancy, but it was one of the most special days I can remember having in a very long time. I’m pretty sure my little man felt it too because for days afterward he snuggled a little more, grinned at me a little more, and was a bit more patient when I was tending to his sister.
Having more than one child sometimes feels impossible to juggle. I often feel like there’s just not enough of me to go around. Each child needs me, often at the same time, but I’m only one mom. Fortunately I learned that a Mommy Date can make our days smoother. By spending an afternoon giving my undivided attention to one child at a time, I’m strengthening our bond and ensuring they know how important they are to me, even when I’m busy with their siblings. I think Mommy dates will soon become part of our new normal!
Do you take your children on Mommy dates? How do you ensure each child gets undivided attention from you? I’d love to hear your ideas!