A huge thanks to our friend, Mommyfriend, for this wonderful post!
One of the few constants in parenthood is imperfection; messy, exhausted, beautiful imperfection.
Before I had children I was one of those people who would strive for perfection in everything. While even true perfectionists understand perfection is unattainable (in theory anyway), somehow we still have our doubts. Once I learned I was expecting, I decided I would be the perfect mother to my perfect baby in our perfect home and life would be, well…perfect.
About 30 seconds after my son was born I traded perfection for survival. My baby was where the perfection ended. I had no idea how to be a mother, let alone a perfect mother! I was tired, overwhelmed, tired and did I mention tired?
Abandoning perfection wasn’t an easy transition for me. I tried to maintain order amidst the chaos of motherhood, but I fought the chaos and the chaos won. Begrudgingly, I raised the wrinkled white flag. I could no longer concern myself with those pesky cobwebs in the corner of the ceiling or the dust on the ceiling fan. I was beginning to understand that as a mother I had a higher purpose than chasing elusive perfection. I had been blessed with a precious baby boy who thankfully didn’t need a perfect mother, he needed me.
I realized soon enough there was perfection to be found in parenthood; it was all about the unexpected bliss and sparks of joy right in the heart of the imperfection. It was about recognizing the magical moments in our everyday. Perfection is dropping everything to cuddle with your child. Perfection is the disastrous (and infamous) family portrait. Perfection is the child who grabs your cheeks with both chubby hands and gives you slobbery kisses. Parenthood is beautiful, surprising and perfectly imperfect. These perfect imperfections are the memories that become part of our family folklore.
I strive to recognize the perfection in my everyday because it’s there; constant, comforting and real.
I encourage my fellow parents to add that dash of crazy, sprinkle of chaos and endless love to your family recipe. It’s yours, it’s delicious and it’s perfect!