MOMMA..MOMMA…MOMMA!

Those are the words I hear from the moment Pinkie Pie wakes up until she goes to bed at night.
My oldest, PP, is totally a daddy’s girl, so when I got pregnant with Pinkie Pie, I was hoping for a momma’s girl. Well, I got what I wished for (and then some!).
Pinkie Pie’s first word was MOMMA and it comes as no surprise that this is her favorite word (along with Elmo, Abby, and Popsicle).
I love that she is a momma’s girl but have two concerns about it.

Number 1: I cannot get anything done! She wants me to carry her around all day, every day.
Around the house, she wants to be carried, at the grocery store, she wants out of the cart to be carried, at the mall, she wriggles in her stroller so I can carry her.
My arms are building up some muscle carting around my 22 pounder!

When I am not around, my husband says she is so good. She will play independently or with her sister and most importantly, she doesn’t whine to be picked up. I guess I am just a sucker and she knows she can get her way with me.

Number 2: Since I am always picking Pinkie Pie up and carrying her everywhere, it’s less time that I get to spend with PP. PP even says, “Mommy, she wants you to pick her up, so pick her up so she stops crying.” Followed by, “You always pick her up.”
Now, if PP trys to hug me, Pinkie Pie goes nuts! She holds her arms up with huge tears streaming down her face while her cheeks turn beet red with sadness.
So, I try to pick them both up (remember my reference to huge biceps??) then Pinkie Pie starts to hit PP so she can get even closer to me (basically, turns into Wrestlemania).

Either way, I feel like I upset one of my daughters and more likely than not, I give in to Pinkie Pie since she is younger (and louder!)

Help!!!  Does anyone have any advice for me?

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2 Responses to “MOMMA..MOMMA…MOMMA!”

  1. Kristen February 25, 2011 at 1:10 am #

    Oh my I feel like I am reading words that I, myself, wrote!!! This is the EXACT same scenario that plays out in my house every day only mine, are boys! You are most certainly not alone my Graco friend! :) Colberoo has always been very independent, he’s a thinker and loves to have the wheels turning in the little 3.5 yr old brain of his all day every day so he’s perfectly content being “with” people but not having to “do” with them. (If that makes sense at all. PJ, on the other hand, MUST be with people and NEEDS physical contact of some sort at all times. Could be a lap with a story, could be a hug, could be holding hands, but evidentally he’s a very touchy feely guy. (Could get interesting in High School – haha) Colberoo, my older son, was a child who went to daycare for the first 2 years of his life when I worked outside the home. When I found out I was pregnant with PJ (they are almost 2 years to the day apart), I quit my job and found one I could work from home because I was not happy with the “motherhood” role that was becoming my life. I knew I had to change something or I’d have a major breakdown if I continued life like that (seeing my child so infrequently and working and commuting to just pay for daycare – wasn’t what I wanted to hoped for “in my life vision”.) and so I decided to change things for the better. With that,PJ, who is now 19 months old, has never stepped foot into a daycare setting (well, except the 3 days he went when we were skiing this past year – to which he screamed bloody murder when we left him). He’s had mommy all day every day since 41 weeks before we met him on his birthday! He is my appendage for sure and I love it in so many ways because we’re like a little team who knows each others next move, but I also see lots of habits that are so different in PJ than Colberoo and am not really sure how to change the pattern. This who non-independent toddler thing is VERY new to me. They were realistically raised the first 2 years of their life in 2 totally different settings and clearly have developed 2 totally different needs for mommy. Funny thing is that despite all those days in the social setting of daycare, Colberoo is still the more reserved of the boys and PJ, the one who’s never really been with a ton of kids (except for an occasional playgroup, gym class, or mommy and me swim lessons all of which I was always there with him), is my extrovert social butterfly who will toddle up to any random stranger, babble tot speak at them and then smile and wave. ??? Go figure!

    So what’s a mom to do?
    I’ve come up with the answer that makes it ok for me that they are so different since no matter what people will have their own opinions and there’s no one way for every family… love them unconditionally, cherish EVERY moment you are with them, together OR separate and the last (my favorite) take it all in stride most of the time flying by the seat of your pants! :) Because I’ve found there is no day like another so might as well just roll with it!! So I’m with you – how do you hug and love PP (or Colberoo) without she/he being man-handled by their touchy feely overly loveable younger sibling? I guess I just love on him all that much more when PJ is napping or strapped into his (Graco) high chair :)

  2. Melissa Parlaman February 25, 2011 at 4:04 pm #

    Hi Kristen.
    Thank you soo much for your great comment! It’s nice to hear that other moms are going through the same. I love what you said about “loving the older one while the other is sleeping.” Last night, I told PP that we can do something special together once Pinkie Pie went to sleep. She wanted to make a necklace so we had that fun one on one time while Pinkie Pie snoozed away the night…