A few weeks ago, I opened up a bit of a can of worms with my post about ‘How do you know when you’re ready’. After that entry was published, I kind of sat back and said to myself…’Ok, now what?’. This week I’m going to focus on the weird sense that the age of 30 tends to drive couples into a baby-making panic. I know I may be creeping into a topic that is incredibly personal and unique to each couple – but there does seem to be a similar theme in many women around me… “I’m almost 30, I better start to plan on having kids.”
In preparation for writing this post I did a little web-research, and all the statistics are there to reinforce the whole age issue. But, would anyone else agree with me that the most important factor in deciding whether or not to have a child is your willingness to be responsible for the life of another human being? Instead of trying to rationalize this evolutionary or cultural concern (wherever it’s coming from) that I’m creeping up in age, maybe I should be preparing myself to take on such a huge life-change by focusing on building my relationship with my husband and building my own confidence.
I know there is true and real evidence that age does impact your fertility, and I’m not trying to ignore it – I just want my decision to become a mother and my husband’s decision to become a father to be less about the threat of my age and more about our willingness to experience the next phase in our lives together.